I’m working on mindfulness in listening. In my humble opinion, it is one of the most important skills a person can learn. I am making a very conscientious effort to be mindful when people talk to me. This includes making eye contact, and, more importantly, stopping whatever it is I’m doing and giving that other person my full attention.
Miscommunication occurs because people aren’t really listening to each other. They are texting, reading emails, cooking, working, etc. At the same time, I think people desire so much to be heard that they don’t hear what other people are saying. What happens is everyone is talking but no one is being heard. We then create these alternative realities because we have to fill in the blanks of what we weren’t listening to in the first place.
I don’t know about you but it leads to a lot of frustration. Personally, I tend to shut down when I feel I’m not being listened to. My thought is that if you can’t listen to me then I don’t really have anything to say. I’m aware I do this. I’m also very good at letting it go most of the time. I can’t change the way people are. I can only change myself and my reactions.
Are you a good listener? How do you handle it when people don’t listen? Do you find this to be a common theme in today’s society?